"That" Mom
As women we tend to compare ourselves to other women...not a good habit but it is what it is. It doesn't help that we have tons of impossible "examples" all around us of what a woman "should" be. I really appreciated Colbie Caillat's latest video "Try"...just watch it if you haven't, it's awesome. Sometimes I think it's harder as a Mom to have all these examples of women around us, of what we're expected to be. I'm not saying we shouldn't care for our bodies and exercise and eat well, but I mean if we have a little "muffin top" left over from when our bellies stretched out full of a 10 lb baby, I mean c'mon, give yourself a break. We can't all be like Gwenyth Paltrow with a personal chef, nanny, personal yoga instructor, personal fitness trainer, yada yada yada. Unless you have all that help (and can afford it in the first place) it's freaking hard to care for little people and give your own body the attention it really needs. So I say this to myself and anyone else feeling down about how you look, give yourself a break!
I don't know about you but there is "that" Mom that I sorta wish I was like and I don't even know her. Every morning I take Kieren to school there is a variety of parents dropping off their kids. There's the hurried Mom pushing the younger brother in the stroller and patiently waiting for the older one to catch up. She's dressed casually with sneakers on. There's the Dad holding his son's hands and walking in slowly. He has on a sweatshirt and cargo shorts with sandals. Sometimes I have my shit together enough that I've showered and dressed and maybe even put earrings on! Most days I just throw on my stretchy pants and Giants thermal shirt because it's comfortable and I don't have to think about it. It's always fun to walk in and acknowledge the other parents with that knowing "yes it's been a crazy morning" smile. Lately though I have noticed this one Mom at school who always has on the cutest dress, nice shoes with decorative tights and hair nicely straightened or done up. She has a calm smile on her face as she walks in with two kids, one older who is probably in 1st grade like mine and the younger probably going to daycare or preschool. She clearly has an important job that requires her to dress so nicely and I wonder what it is. I can tell from the importance she places on looking nice everyday, she probably has a very neat and nicely designed house as well. Sure I am a bit envious of her nice clothes and discipline to (most likely) get up early enough to have everything so "together", but it's more of an admiration that I feel. I don't have to go to work right after I take Kieren to school because I work in the evening so it's not really necessary for me to be completely ready; but I do hope to be more like her. To walk tall and confident (regardless of what I'm wearing), and to have a calm smile on my face (even if my children have driven me up the wall and it's only 8am).
Maybe you too have "that" Mom that you admire, envy a bit and sometimes wish you were like. Tell her she looks nice and you love her dress instead of giving her a dirty look. Us women need to support and encourage each other more, not tear each other down and judge from afar. Let's set an example for our daughters (and sons) of what real women are. Let's be friends and show we care even if we are a little jealous because after all, that jealousy is our own problem of insecurity.
Here's that video I was talking about, get your kleenex ready...it's a good one.
I don't know about you but there is "that" Mom that I sorta wish I was like and I don't even know her. Every morning I take Kieren to school there is a variety of parents dropping off their kids. There's the hurried Mom pushing the younger brother in the stroller and patiently waiting for the older one to catch up. She's dressed casually with sneakers on. There's the Dad holding his son's hands and walking in slowly. He has on a sweatshirt and cargo shorts with sandals. Sometimes I have my shit together enough that I've showered and dressed and maybe even put earrings on! Most days I just throw on my stretchy pants and Giants thermal shirt because it's comfortable and I don't have to think about it. It's always fun to walk in and acknowledge the other parents with that knowing "yes it's been a crazy morning" smile. Lately though I have noticed this one Mom at school who always has on the cutest dress, nice shoes with decorative tights and hair nicely straightened or done up. She has a calm smile on her face as she walks in with two kids, one older who is probably in 1st grade like mine and the younger probably going to daycare or preschool. She clearly has an important job that requires her to dress so nicely and I wonder what it is. I can tell from the importance she places on looking nice everyday, she probably has a very neat and nicely designed house as well. Sure I am a bit envious of her nice clothes and discipline to (most likely) get up early enough to have everything so "together", but it's more of an admiration that I feel. I don't have to go to work right after I take Kieren to school because I work in the evening so it's not really necessary for me to be completely ready; but I do hope to be more like her. To walk tall and confident (regardless of what I'm wearing), and to have a calm smile on my face (even if my children have driven me up the wall and it's only 8am).
Maybe you too have "that" Mom that you admire, envy a bit and sometimes wish you were like. Tell her she looks nice and you love her dress instead of giving her a dirty look. Us women need to support and encourage each other more, not tear each other down and judge from afar. Let's set an example for our daughters (and sons) of what real women are. Let's be friends and show we care even if we are a little jealous because after all, that jealousy is our own problem of insecurity.
Here's that video I was talking about, get your kleenex ready...it's a good one.
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